Being a parent is not a job that you can just take a break from or put on pause. It’s a continuous tug of war between wanting to get your kids to bed at night as fast as possible so that you can relax and watch the show that you’ve been dying to watch on the DVR and wanting them to wake up from their nap so you can play with them outside. It’s the battle of wanting them to be a little more independent so that they can entertain themselves, and scrolling through old pictures on your phone remembering how helpless (and chunky) they were and wishing time would stand still. Yep. Being a parent is a full time, all in, can’t stop won’t stop job that’s easy to get swept away in. When Cameron and I first found out that we were going to be parents, I was nervous because of all the obvious reasons like having to keep a human alive but also about the fact that I didn’t want to lose myself or lose the connection that Cameron and I have by getting caught up in doing and being everything for our kids. Fast forward to now, we definitely have our moments of realizing that all of our conversations revolve around our daughter but we always circle back by making time for “us”.
Part of making time for and nurturing our relationship as a couple is traveling (when we have the time and money) and simply going out on a date. I know that it sounds simple, but I have found that it is quite often the simple things, like kissing each other before we leave for the day, or planning a date and securing a sitter, that can make all the difference in the strength of a relationship. In this post I wanted to give you guys a peek into a date night with Cameron and offer 3 tips on how to continuously date your husband.
1. Remember the Old Days When You First Started Dating
I love reminiscing about when and how we first met and how exciting and crazy that time was. On our way to dinner at Schilleci’s and a Movie (La La Land), I challenged Cameron and myself to try to remember what the heck it was that we talked about when we first started Facebook chatting, texting, and talking on the phone. We would talk for hours, and have forever long strands of text each day! We could only remember bits and pieces of what we used to talk about in those conversations 7+ years ago but it was fun trying!
2. Try Something or Somewhere New
Cameron and I are always on the hunt for a new restaurant to try. We always want to be “those friends” that know of all the hot spots or the little hole in the wall places that has the best ______ when friends or family come into town. On our date night we went to Schilleci’s New Orleans Kitchen on Market Street in The Woodlands, Texas. It was our first time and we wanted to try it because we had only had New Orlean’s style cuisine one other time before. In the spirit of Mardi Gras season we decided to check it out and it didn’t disappoint!
3. Go Unplugged
This is a hard one. I think that it’s easier for me than it is for Cameron, but I appreciate the fact that he tries to ignore (or discreetly look) at his apple watch when it gives him a buzz on our date nights. With the exception of checking my phone every once in a while to make sure the babysitter hadn’t messaged, I am doing well with this tip. I am sure many of you guys have realized how attached to our devices we all can be. I will be the first one to admit that when my husband is upstairs and I am downstairs I will text him when I have a question or request! When we are out on a date and even when we are traveling, we try to live in that moment so that we can collect every second of those soon to be memories. Not to mention how great it is to actually have a conversation looking at your partner eye to eye!
We may not always eat dinner at the dinner table at the same time or always see eye to eye when it comes to potty training, but one thing is for sure, by practicing the act of continuously dating we are always certain to find center.
I also want to take the time to announce the winner of last Thursday’s $50 PinkBlush gift card give away! Congrats to Tina Fields! You have a gift card coming your way girl!