Have you ever had one of those days where everything that could go wrong went wrong? Where you just wanted to hurry up and get the day over with so that you can sleep and start over again the next day. In full transparency, I feel as though 2019 has been a whole year of trying to keep my head above water from things that have gone “wrong”. With the New Year just a few weeks away, I look forward to a fresh start to recalibrate my life and to put 2019 behind me. Life happens. You can’t control it but there are self care steps you can take to help ease the times where life seems extra tough.
I know that everyone doesn’t have the means to take an extravagant vacation every time life gets complicated. When things got hardest for me this year, my initial reaction was to get in my car and just drive, anywhere. While not practical, with two kids and a husband the sentiment wasn’t wrong. After talking with my husband about my feelings of wanting to get some space and needing to “exhale” from pressures of life, we decided a weekend staycation with just me, myself, and I, would be a great idea. The best part about it was staying in the comforts of my own city and not having to spend money on a flight or car service.
I stayed at the InterContinental Houston-Medical Center which is located close to amazing restaurants, the Houston museum and arts district, and close to the light rail which will get you to other hot spots around town. For this trip however, I just wanted to spread out in the hotel’s comfortable beds and order room service! Getting away alone was something I needed more than I knew. I could be still, cry, think, and watch Food Network uninterrupted until the wee hours of the night. It may sound strange, but I was rejuvenated by it!
2.Talk to Someone
I have always been an advocate of counseling and therapy. I think that everyone should go talk to a professional at least twice a year even when things are going great, just as a “check in”. Needless to say when I started to feel myself having more bad days than good emotionally, I knew I needed to talk to someone to sort out my thoughts and feelings. I was able to find a counseling center about 10 minutes from my house and found a great counselor that is helping me navigate life right now. If you have been on the fence as to whether you should talk to someone about what’s going on in your life, do it! You will never regret it and you have nothing to lose.
3. Take One Day at a Time
Taking one day or situation at a time is my main take-away from counseling. There was so much going on at once and it seemed like I couldn’t process one thing without another life bomb dropping. When I was told to just focus on one thing, my whole perspective changed. Things seemed a lot less stressful when I silenced the noise of the chaos and focused on one thing at a time.
4. Surround Yourself with People Who Want the Best for You
This has been crucial to me. I have learned that you can’t share all the details of your life with everyone because not everyone has your best interest. But man, I have a core group of listening, praying, empathetic, hilarious, scrappy, and soft friends that have loved me fierce when I needed them the most. It’s not all about being cheered up all the time. Sometimes you just want someone to tell you “that sucks” and then sit in silence with you as you watch “The Office”. Sometimes you don’t have to tell them anything, but they just know that you are going through and will pray for you when you feel like you can’t pray anymore. Those are your people. Keep them close, even though when you are feeling low all you want to do is isolate.
Every New Year’s Eve I look ahead to the next 365 days with anticipation and hope for my best year yet. Despite my own personal turmoil in 2019, I am able to still feel optimistic with what this New Year (and new decade) will bring. Friends, it gets better whether you see it or not. I believe it for myself, and I believe it for you!
Thank you to the InterContinental Houston-Medical Center for allowing me to revive at the hotel! All thoughts and opinions are my own.